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Author: Soni Pittsbr
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Tis the season once again for parties, champagne, noisemakers…and of course, New Years resolutions. Every year, millions of people go through the same ritual of making optimistic resolutions for the coming year – many of which are destined to be swept up into the dustbin with the remains of the confetti and party favors.
But what if you could make this year different? What if you could revolutionize the way you approach resolutions so that they actually work for you, rather than against you?
Although there are many excuses for why resolutions fail, the real reason for resolution dissolution is not that you are weak or that your hopes and dreams are merely wishful thinking. Its that in many cases the things you swear to give up or take on every year are merely surface indicators of deeper problems. Unfortunately, like covering acne with makeup or paying the Visa bill with the MasterCard, making such resolutions simply covers up the problem without addressing the real cause – setting you up for failure, while allowing the original problem to grow worse through neglect.
This year, instead of metaphorically slapping a new paint job on a rusty old lemon, why not go beneath the surface flaws and fix the real problems once and for all? Of course, uprooting deep-seated issues and self-destructive habits isnt nearly as easy or as much fun as making out a list of socially approved itches to ritually scratch for a few weeks before returning to your warm and comfy rut. But in the long run, if you aim at the heart of the matter over the heat of the moment, you may end up with way more than a Happy New Year – you may just get a whole new life!
Here are some tips to help you get to the real source of the problems:

1. Decide whats not working in your life, and then figure out why youre keeping it around
Every behavior humans engage in results in one of two alternatives. Either you get something you want and you keep doing it, or you get something you dont want and you quit doing it. Its just that simple.
Even obviously self-destructive behaviors offer some reward, however tenuous, or people wouldnt keep doing them. It could be the avoidance of some greater or more frightening pain or discomfort, the allowance of special attention or excuse from unpleasant activity, or perhaps a payoff of some other emotional power, manipulation or hold over others. And no matter how strong the urge to engage in such behaviors feels to you, unless you are seriously mentally ill (and I do mean seriously) you can stop yourself, given sufficient motivation.
Spend some time digging out what reward your bad behavior is getting you. Once you find that, you can more objectively decide if you really want that payoff bad enough to keep the behavior – and all of its attending consequences.
2. Think like the last man/woman on earth
Before engaging in self destructive or risky behaviors, such as spending money you cant spare on a new toy or showing off in a dangerous manner, ask yourself the following question: If I was the last person left alive and there was no one else left on earth to see me have or do this, would I still go to this much trouble or risk to do so?
If the answer is no, then chances are good that your real motivation is the attention, reaction or approval/disapproval of others and not your own intrinsic needs, wants or desires. Use that knowledge to make better decisions and to learn more about who you are and why you do what you do in the process.
3. Get oriented.
You wouldnt set out on a trip without consulting a map, nor would you buy into a financial investment without tracking past behavior and getting sound predictions on future growth. Yet many people live their lives without ever knowing where they are going, and invest themselves heavily in decisions and resolutions made on a whim, with no real guidance or direction.
Spend some time figuring out what your long-term goals, needs and dreams really are, and then weigh each future decision based on whether or not it takes you closer to these targets.
If you find yourself continually drawn to activities that do not further your stated goals and needs, then its time to re-examine both. Either your stated goals arent your real desires or the activity yields some hidden reward youre reluctant to pass up. You cant expect to make real and lasting change until you sort these issues out.
One thing you must understand and acknowledge is that creating real and lasting change in your life (as opposed to making short-term, feel-good gestures of dubious value) is not only hard, it can be downright frightening. I know of at least one would-be quitter that gave up using stop-smoking patches, not because they werent working but because they were! The lesson here is that when many people say that they want to change, what they really want is to have changed – to get where they want to be without all the work and upset of actually going through the changes. But even when we desperately do want real change, whats familiar and comforting now (even if it is painful and limiting) can be a much stronger draw than whats better for us in the distant and possibly risky future.
But by getting to the core of the matter and by using the tips above to help you set a firm foundation to build upon, you can provide yourself with stronger ammunition to ward off your demons and strip away the illusions that glamorize your self-destructive behaviors and make it easier to give in to them. Once youve seen why you do what you do, its much easier to respond to events and make sound choices, rather than reacting out of habit and making seat-of-the-pants decisions.
This year, instead of fighting another losing battle with half-hearted and ineffective resolutions, why not spend the holiday season doing something truly revolutionary: creating a life so well-tuned to your values, needs and loves that you can kiss New Years resolutions goodbye – forever!
(c) Soni Pittsbr
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